Okay, mostly done with my install now, I had to pull the winch back off and clock the motor to vertical, I didn't like the terminals facing forward. When torqueing down the M10 10.9 bolts one stretched (not sure if the nut or the bolt was what failed) so I changed all the hardware out to 7/16" grade 8 which was readily available and just required opening up the holes a couple 32s.
I needed longer wires both for the solenoid box location and also the main lines, I ordered new main lines and used the original lines to make new wires between the solenoid box and the winch. I needed 8' between my battery negative terminal and winch ground, the positive I ordered as 8' also but 7' likely would have worked (but some slack within reason doesn't hurt).
Despite these solenoids being sealed up I built a weather tight enclosure to house it and the connections in and mounted it on the backside of the winch mounting plate so its tucked away and shielded.
I am going to use a steel cable still on my winch so I ordered a warn CAST IRON hawse that is rated to be used with cable, I'm just waiting on a new hook to spool on the cable (my current hook the gate won't close on the factory tow hooks).
Outstanding: mount hook/cable, pick an upfitter switch to tie the remote wire into that I ran separately, modify my license plate bracket to fit over this (want the cable installed first so I know how much offset).
Prototyping the solenoid box, the final version was printed in ASA.
Warn hawse with some printed plugs for the bolt holes.
Solenoid box tucked behind the mounting plate. All the wiring comes over the top of the winch plate, nothing routed below to get damaged.