From what I see/read about with the actual manufacturer's web sites (focus on under hood) :
1) H&S (HSM) : They sell a couple of variants. One under-the-hood kit keeps the upper filter, another kit relocates the upper filter to under the truck.
>> Nothing special all-in-all, just a spin on filter. Relies on the OE under hood connection clips.
2) SPE Motorsports : They went all in to remove the under hood filter to relocate under the truck. Not to mention they drop the OE water separator moving to a CAT filter.
>> Still relies on the OE under hood connections. Forces owners to move to CAT filters.
3) S&S Diesel Motorsports : Does the same dance with under the hood.
>> Well.....still uses the under the hood OE connectors with a spin-on filter, owners to use Donaldson filter.
4) Fleece Diesel : Offers two different products for under the hood, and under the truck.
>> Here we go again.....uses under the hood OE connections and Donaldson filters. Under the bed kit replaces OE water separator with Donaldson filters.
So what I read is this : If you can't seat the OE connectors properly on the OE upper filter, you sure as shit can't seat them on the aftermarket kits.
I've had one fellow owner (2019 DRW) reach out to me where he had the under hood connection come loose. Asked me all about these kits....I asked him HOW did the connection come loose. Short version guess what......He had JUST CHANGED the fuel filters. Most likely HE didn't seat the upper connection properly, but JUST enough to seal it and use the locking clip to APPEAR it was attached properly. In the end I can't say if he bought any of the kits as described above, but he sure as shit learned that getting those fittings to seat properly is KEY to less stress.
Buy what you want, it's your truck. I'm not saying these kits aren't quality, or don't provide good filtration. They do provide a margin of added "protection" which we could discuss over PLENTY of variables that could be the source of the "problems".