I agree the effects of COVID are devastating.
Here is what I can tell you. If someone claims to be following the science look at what they have to say with skepticism. Unless they are a scientist and are willing to discuss the science anyone saying "follow the science" should be treated with as much credibility as a used car salesman saying "trust me".
Here is what I believe to be the truth - use your head and challenge it.
Masks generally do not work - maybe for a cough or a sneeze to catch large droplets. Mask manufacturers state on their packaging or in their literature that their products are not effective in preventing the transmission of viruses or other microbes.
We have well over 80% of the country wearing masks, yet we are seeing spikes in positive cases. This is an interesting piece of empirical data that tells me one of 2 things. Either the tests are generating false positives or masks are not working. Since test kits are required to go through a lot testing before they are released to the public, I tend to believe that the infection is spreading regardless of mask use. Would infection rates be higher without using masks? I do not know because I can't conduct a controlled study. The point is the data points to masks being ineffective at controlling the spread of the virus - that is what the data is telling us!
The real issue here is that people expect the government to protect them from the virus. They actually put their faith in what the government tells them to do to avoid contracting COVID. Unfortunately, many government leaders continue to push mask mandates simply because they have no solutions to control the spread of the virus. The people want a solution, and damn it they are going to provide one - whether it works or not. The people on the other hand want to believe there is a solution and cling to their masks because they do not know what else to do.
I believe the truth of the matter is that we cannot control a virus - the virus is going to do what it is going to do. And this virus is going to run its course.
But there are things we can do, and these seem to be having a positive effect. First we have become better at treating people who have contracted the virus. We have new therapies that are currently reducing the mortality rate of those who contract the virus. This is borne out in the data as well.
The second as you all know is the release of vaccines that should enable the body's own immune system to better fight off the virus once we have contracted the virus. We won't know for sure until we have fairly widespread distribution of vaccinated people.
Another factor contributing to lower death rates may be that the virus is attenuating on its own. I am not a virologist and am not even going to try to bullshit you on this but if it is becoming weaker that's a good thing for all involved.
The rest of the story all boils down to simple math but to sum it up quickly. If people who have survived the virus are not susceptible to reinfection and cannot contaminate other people, and people receiving the vaccine do not develop COVID and do not spread the virus, you have that many more people who are not capable of spreading the virus. (I am making assumptions here and want to be clear.) Then you have that many fewer spreaders. As more people survive the virus and more people are vaccinated the virus has fewer "places to go". And that is a good thing.
I do believe once we get through this intense wave we are in right now we will see dramatic drops in infection rates and subsequent waves should be shorter and less intense. The virus will run its course whether you want to hear that or not. So do your best to maintain your health, get plenty of rest so if you do contract the virus you minimize its impacts to your health. If you are at high risk, you do need to try to minimize contact with the virus. The more people you come into contact with, the higher the statistical chances are that you will come into contact with someone that has the virus. Its just math. Same for your family.
If you want more information I suggest you go to
https://coronavirus.jhu.edu/data and look at critical trends. If you look at different countries you will see the USA (which hopefully is nearing its peak right now) and other countries where the second wave has peaked and they are in a downturn. You can also go to the various states to look at how COVID infections are playing out in your area.
Don't want to be a debbie downer but I feel the stuff the media and some of the governors/mayors are feeding you is simply political - and that they are keeping the science from the people.
Make your own decisions as pertains to your circumstances and be safe and stay healthy - we will get through this together.