I would get a restraining order. I understand the kid has special needs...that doesn't mean his folks get turn him loose and let the neighborhood to deal with him....Luckily this time no one was hurt, just property damage.
Welp.... This happened.
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Truely a sad situation for all those involved. Hopefully you can get your truck back as close to 100% as possible.
Single mother and poor or not, was her decision to have the child as it is a result of life choices. I agree you need to have her held accountable in some form. Ive worked cases where things similar to this were the beginning of MUCH larger problems that could have been addressed through various forms of aid (mental health, guidance, intervention, ect.) It really needs to be documented and bare minimum through LE.The police were involved as he damaged three cars and attacked his mother with the stick as she tried to wrangle him. Filed a report for 2-10k in damages and the cop said to press charges so that the mother could get help with him. Single mother and I imagine quite poor so not sure what will happen. Never had to deal with damage that wasn't car vs car or tree vs house
Not going to give legal advice but pressing charges may be the better answer as it can lead to her getting help with him, documentation, some kind of resolve on your end, and maybe preventing this in the future.
If your dealing with a teen, aka as a juvenile, in most states actual criminal charges can't be filed, add the known mental health issues it further complicates it. A report to law enforcement for documentation is needed. The only recourse is civil with the responsible adult. This is just a bad situation for everyone involved.
Welllllll….not 100% accurate. I have arrested or charged juveniles in the past. It comes down to the DA, code section specifics, and minimum age in your state to charge a juvenile. Either way the purpose is not to necessarily incarcerate the kid, it would be to seek mental health and aid for the parent and community.
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That's basically what the cop said. File charges and it'll help her get help for him. They have dealt with him on multiple occasions because, like I said, he will attack his mother and she is barely big enough to do anything about it. I believe they took him in yesterday, but they could've just had him in the car for everyone's safety while they filled out reports and whatnot
You are a leaving out a two pretty significant piece of the equation here. First... no one chooses whether their kid has severe mental/physical disabilities, and poverty absolutely plays a part here (regardless of the good or bad "life choices" that led to them getting pregnant). I have a few close friends who have children with various levels of disability (downs syndrome, autism, etc.) It's a full time job to raise a kid with a disability this severe that would be challenging even for two healthy engaged parents with above average incomes, (especially if help from the state is limited). Which brings up the second piece... where the f*** is the dad? Did he bail after he knocked her up and/or got fed up with the kid's issues and left mom holding the bag? It is incredibly rare that you encounter someone who is parenting a child with disabilities who is the type of complete sociopath that would just throw up their hands and let their kid run feral. Blade has absolutely done the right thing by keeping his cool here, an admirable response.
It's a truly horrible situation all around, and from what Blade is saying from the cops on scene, it sounds like he will be made whole and that this incident may at least actually help the mom get her son the help he needs... but I would expect a fair amount more empathy towards all parties involved here.
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I should have mentioned this in yesterday's post but given the situation you describe, you may well have to file with your own insurance and let them decided whether to attempt any recovery from the vandal's mother, hence needing documentation from police. Sounds to me like you got good advice from the officer you talked to.The police were involved as he damaged three cars and attacked his mother with the stick as she tried to wrangle him. Filed a report for 2-10k in damages and the cop said to press charges so that the mother could get help with him. Single mother and I imagine quite poor so not sure what will happen. Never had to deal with damage that wasn't car vs car or tree vs house
Kinda the way our system works these days when it works at all. Wait for bad thing to happen, then allocate resources to try to address future problems.
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In my opinion, it is always wise to file/report so that you have it on record that you made an effort.
It sounds like this teenager is highly unstable and thinking along the lines that if this situation continues to escalate and Blade's home or family is involved and you have to take action, you want the record to show that you have made an attempt in the past to avoid confrontation.
I am as empathetic as anyone and 100% agree that a vehicle is a possession and can be repaired. What puts me on alert in this case is the fact that he used 6 lb rocks and a stick as a weapon against several vehicles and has attacked his mother on multiple occasions. I think along the lines of what happens if @Blade420Play's wife or kids are entered into the equation and you are forced to get involved.
It sounds like this teenager is highly unstable and thinking along the lines that if this situation continues to escalate and Blade's home or family is involved and you have to take action, you want the record to show that you have made an attempt in the past to avoid confrontation.
I am as empathetic as anyone and 100% agree that a vehicle is a possession and can be repaired. What puts me on alert in this case is the fact that he used 6 lb rocks and a stick as a weapon against several vehicles and has attacked his mother on multiple occasions. I think along the lines of what happens if @Blade420Play's wife or kids are entered into the equation and you are forced to get involved.
Oh please don't take it that way, having disabilities is not a choice…just the sex part. Being poor or rich however doesn't justify lack of accountability.
Im currently teaching my autistic nephew in law to hunt so I understand difficulties that come with it.
Unfortunately so but correct.
I'd glue down those rocks at the end of your driveway too.
I haven't lost my temper in a number of years but coming home from work and seeing that happen to a new truck would do the trick. Good on you for maintaining composure. Hopefully soon it will all be a distant memory and you'll never know it happened when you look at the truck.
I haven't lost my temper in a number of years but coming home from work and seeing that happen to a new truck would do the trick. Good on you for maintaining composure. Hopefully soon it will all be a distant memory and you'll never know it happened when you look at the truck.
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What a mess this is. I feel your pain.
I had a tree fall in a storm on my brand new Escalade several years back. I was crushed as there were a few things after the repair that were never the same.
We live across the street from a single mother with the same situation. She has done a wonderful job raising her son and he has turned out to be a good kid in his early twenties now. When we were away in the summers, I would have him mow my lawn and water the grass and flowers. His work ethic was 10X better than my own kids. We would come home to our lawn, flowers, and garden looking better than where we left it. His mom would keep him busy with tasks all day in the summers so he would not get bored which I think was key.
I have dealt with insurance on a number of no fault claims including theft, vandalism, and acts of god. One thing is always the same. Insurance companies are bad to deal with. Make sure you have all your receipts for any after market additions or repairs that were done. Also make sure you file all reports and keep all pictures and videos handy. It will make the claim process smoother.
I realize the mother is poor and the teenager may not be able to control what he did, that being said, you may want to get a lawyer to see what is the best path forward. I would hate for you to get your truck repaired to as close as new as possible, only to have the same thing happen a few months down the road.
I had a tree fall in a storm on my brand new Escalade several years back. I was crushed as there were a few things after the repair that were never the same.
We live across the street from a single mother with the same situation. She has done a wonderful job raising her son and he has turned out to be a good kid in his early twenties now. When we were away in the summers, I would have him mow my lawn and water the grass and flowers. His work ethic was 10X better than my own kids. We would come home to our lawn, flowers, and garden looking better than where we left it. His mom would keep him busy with tasks all day in the summers so he would not get bored which I think was key.
I have dealt with insurance on a number of no fault claims including theft, vandalism, and acts of god. One thing is always the same. Insurance companies are bad to deal with. Make sure you have all your receipts for any after market additions or repairs that were done. Also make sure you file all reports and keep all pictures and videos handy. It will make the claim process smoother.
I realize the mother is poor and the teenager may not be able to control what he did, that being said, you may want to get a lawyer to see what is the best path forward. I would hate for you to get your truck repaired to as close as new as possible, only to have the same thing happen a few months down the road.
My wife's brother is a low functioning adult autistic person who is very strong and prone to violent outbursts. I would agree that you consider pressing charges if it can assist the mother in getting services started. If you can't get a restraining order against him, you should be able to at least have the police formally trespass him from your property. Also given that he is a teenager, and prone to violence I'd recommend you and any other adults in the house carry pepper spray. In most jurisdictions pepper spray falls at or under the same level of force as ordinary physical force, and imho tends to be a much better option than physically fighting someone.
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Neighborhood kid, autistic teenager, decided to take a few of my 3-6# rocks from around my mailbox and throw them at my truck today while I was at work. He took out the neighbor's mini cooper back glass, as well as a stick to yet another neighbor's little rav 4 looking car. Taking the new camper out this weekend and hour away. Poor wife is going to have to listen to the wa-was from the window(packing taped up) the whole trip
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Made it a whole year before the whole came back. Was my wife's car this time at least, not that that makes it any less infuriating...
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Yeah, I told the cop lady that he was lucky I wasn't home both times and if I was I would have put his ass on the ground. She said she's had to do it multiple times....
This time we're calling CPS and hopefully having him moved somewhere the F else. Especially glad it was not the Tremor this time because our last company insurance dropped us due to all three company trucks getting F'd up one way or another last year. Guess I'm glad my wife was able to run him off before he had a chance to move onto the truck which sits a few feet away from hers.
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Truly unbelievableYeah, I told the cop lady that he was lucky I wasn't home both times and if I was I would have put his ass on the ground. She said she's had to do it multiple times....
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