@The Dude : You use the harness on the trailer, not the truck. Showing what you bought is not for the truck bed 7/12 pin connector for inside the bed gooseneck/5th wheel trailers. It's just for any connections after the bumper 7/12pin connector.
By what the instructions note your 12pin should already be there. Just pull out the old 7/4 way, install the 7/12way, drop the spare tire, locate the 12pin connector with the dust cap, remove the dust cap, connect to the lower 12pin connector. Done. Now connect the harness to your trailer.